Finding Balance

Life is a balance of holding on and letting go” – Rumi

Balance comes into play in so many ways in our life. Achieving a work/life balance makes us happier and healthier.  Our lives are enriched when we engage in activities, volunteer for a worthy cause, learn new skills.  Just as important is making time to rest and nurture ourselves.  As Rumi states, it’s an ongoing cycle of opposite energies.

Yin and Yang CO

Yin and Yang has been a Chinese principle for thousands of years. It represents opposite yet complimentary forces which dynamically join together to create harmony. We see numerous examples of this in nature: day and night, hot and cold, shadows in sunlight.  Autumn prepares for the barren, stillness of winter.  Springtime is a time of growth and renewal.  Opposite forces create the flow of life.

Another perspective of balance is the tipping factor. Being in tune with our body and spirit helps us to understand our equilibrium point.  It’s the process of knowing when to make adjustments before we tip over.  Finding balance is an interconnected process as life changes.  The one thing we can count on is feeling peaceful and content when we’ve achieved it.

Power of Social Connection

Sometimes, reaching out and taking someone’s hand is the beginning of a journey. At other times, it is allowing another to take yours.” – Vera Nazarian, The Perpetual Calendar of Inspiration

Child Reaching for Mother

I’m one of those people who strike up a conversation with strangers in the market, while petting their dog, or dining at a community table. Connections with people can be just for that moment or they can last a life time.  Once when attending an event without my spouse, a group asked me to join them seeing I was eating alone.  We’ve been good friends ever since.

“Research shows the need to connect socially with others is as basic as our need for food, water and shelter,” says Matthew Lieberman, author of Social: Why Our Brains are Wired to Connect.  Studies show social connection improves health, strengthens our immunity system and increases longevity.

It’s heart touching to hear about children who sit next to the kid at lunch who is all alone. The book and movie, Wonder is a powerful example of reaching out to people who are isolated because they’re different.

This is a particularly difficult time for people who are alone or without a family. When we take time to reach out to people, it’s a gift to see their face light up when we connect with them.  Spread joy this season – Best wishes for the New year!

 

 

Pause and Observe

Make peace with the present moment.” – Eckhart Tolle

A friend told me today I seem more calm and content. It pleasantly surprised me she noticed. I’m working on going with the flow and not getting upset by things I can’t control.  I try to take time to pause before responding to something.  Just taking a breath helps me feel more peaceful in that moment.

Pause and Observe

Yesterday I watched Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday. Her guest was Eckhart Tolle, spiritual teacher and author of The Power of Now and A New Earth.  They discussed conflict and divisiveness in the world today.  Oprah asked, “Are we taking steps back in consciousness or is this happening to raise consciousness?”  Eckhart explained it is not a linear process.  Like our development in life, we experience challenges and obstacles to help us grow.  When we have setbacks, we need to pause and observe.  It’s not what happens to us but how we react to it.

He says stress is wanting something to be the way it isn’t.  Look at the situation without belaboring it.  When something happens to upset you, watch your mind and what it’s telling you.  “Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.”

If you would like to hear him talk more about this concept, here’s a 2 ½ minute Youtube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ys17xPHS2Q8

Touching Hearts

It’s not the things we get but the hearts we touch that will determine our success in life.” – Mac Anderson

Touching Hearts

When we share our personal stories with others, telling them our challenges and also what keeps us positive and strong, it lifts spirits. Recently this happened with two women I met.

One woman told me she came alone to America from Equador when she was twenty-one. She became a Nanny, learned English then received certification for massage therapy and Reiki.  We talked about meditation, saints, and healing. I asked her if she heard of the Meditation on Twin Hearts with Master Choa where he honors saints, Mother Earth and sends blessings to all beings.  I literally saw her face light up. She told me she felt sad lately and I was an angel sent to lift her sadness.

The other young woman was from Vietnam. She asked me if I had children, then told me about her struggles with the possibility of not having children.  “Do you think it’s ok to not have children?” Absolutely, I told her. I don’t have children and neither do many of my friends.  We’re fortunate today to not be pressured or expected to raise a family.

Both expressed sadness but then we talked about things that pick us up – music, dancing, learning new things, meditation, keeping a positive spirit, connecting with like-minded people. I left them feeling lighter myself knowing what a difference we can make when we touch hearts.

http://pranichealing.com/meditation-twin-hearts

 

Light in Dark Times

It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us…” – Charles Dickens, A Tale of Two Cities

Light in dark

One would think Dickens wrote this about the tumultuous state of the world today.  It’s a tough time for everyone particularly those facing persecution, natural disasters and trauma.  In the Tale of Two Cities, Dr. Manette’s broken spirit from his unjust eighteen year imprisonment is healed by the love and devotion of his daughter.

In every case of disaster or distress we learn of heroes who shield others from bullets, rescue people from burning buildings, donate blood, time and money to those in need, comfort strangers and loved ones who are suffering. We bring relief by showing we care, standing up for morality, engaging in humanitarian efforts.

Volunteer, sign up for a cause, make peace with someone, be a mentor, give encouragement, get involved.  There are so many ways to bring light to dark times.

Power of Silence

“The quieter you become the more you can hear.” – Ram Dass

Cottonwood Lake

Lately I wonder when did it become such a noisy world? Perhaps it always has been.  The hustle bustle of traffic, piercing sirens, clanging construction sites, devices beeping at us – the volume of noise steadily increases making me want to grab a remote and hit the mute button.

Those precious moments when I find peace and quiet like today, I sit and admire the beauty of tranquility. When human and mechanical noise is absent, you can hear nature speak.  You can listen to your soul.  Silence is powerful in many ways.  Quiet reflection can help us reach a level of deep inner calm. In communication, being quiet allows us to listen and be attentive.  It gives time to digest what is said.  During an argument, being silent can help you cool off, reconsider or apologize for harsh words spoken.

Silence may be uncomfortable for some people who need constant background noise because then we’re alone with our thoughts. That’s the perfect reason to appreciate quiet time to reflect, recharge and recognize the power of silence.

Inspiration

“Everybody we encounter is really a mirror – a reflection of a part of who we are. And within each of us is a teacher – someone who inspires, listens and reflects.” – Oprah

Inspiration

One morning, I felt a particular appreciation for the motivators in our lives – my Pilates instructor as she guided me through movements to strengthen and balance my body, a friend who as a professional coach helps clients make positive changes, and the teacher who motivated my niece to go to college and become a teacher so she can inspire other students.

Inspiration is my passion – it’s why I created this blog. So, it didn’t surprise me to see the title of that day’s meditation with Oprah and Deepak was “Inspirational Me.” Oprah said, “Each of us has that power to inspire one another.  Within all of us lies a wonderful teacher … Embrace that inner teacher and know you have something very valuable to offer everyone around you.”

That’s the beauty of inspiration – you don’t have to be an instructor, coach or teacher to inspire others.  Each one of us has a unique gift to share.  We have the opportunity to connect with people, encourage them, lift their spirits, and experience the power of inspiration as we watch it unfold.

To read the Inspirational Me meditation, click on this link: http://www.soul2soulblog.net/meditation-desire-destiny/day-17-inspirational-me-desire-destiny-meditation/