“People come into your life for a reason, season or lifetime” – Author unknown
I repeat this saying all the time noticing how people come and go in our lives. My brother described it perfectly yesterday when he told me people were popping into his life and helping him in different ways. “It’s weird, he said. I don’t know how it happens. It’s like there’s magic dust in the air.”
That’s how the universe works. It sprinkles people into our lives at just the right time when we need them. We throw an intention or need out there and we’re magically connected with just the right person at the right time. Sometimes it may be a perfect stranger, chance meeting, and the only time you’ll see them. Others are only with us for one leg of our journey – during childhood or college, maybe it’s a first boss who mentored you, or someone who supported you during an illness.
There’s actually scientific evidence showing the EKG of one person’s heart can be measured in the EEG of another person’s brain. In other words, one’s emotional energy registers in the brainwaves of another. I think the key is to be aware of your feelings and sensations when people come into your life. There may be a reason why you “bump” into them or they pop up. It continues to amaze me the incredible people I meet who make life more meaningful. I am forever grateful for friends who walk with me in the sunshine and dance in the rain.
Love is in the air … red hearts dangle in windows, balloons float by flowers, chocolates melt in our mouths. Like other things in our society, it’s a commercialized Hallmark holiday. But I will always think celebrating love is a good thing. Today more than ever, Jackie De Shannon’s song rings true: “What the world needs now is love, sweet love. It’s the only thing that there’s just too little of.”
While the spark of romance is alluring, our spirit is what ignites true Love. In his book Path to Love, Deepak Chopra explains the Vedik view: “We are not observers of reality but creators. Our true nature is pure awareness, pure creativity, pure spirit … When you perceive yourself as spirit, you will not simply feel love – you will be love.”
So how can we be love? Compassion, forgiveness, and kindness all play a role. Gratitude is also key for me. The quote of a “winged heart” perfectly captures my gratitude for many more days of loving, as I celebrate 14 years being a cancer survivor this month. The first step in my healing process was a positive spirit and grateful heart. When we approach life from this perspective, we gain an inner peace which radiates outward in love. We can shine our light in many ways – a smile, compliment, helping hand, or hug are small gestures but their effect is powerful. Leo Buscaglia also known as Dr. Love said: “Love is always bestowed as a gift – freely, willingly and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved; we love to love.”
“Do small things with great love” – Mother Teresa
We’re still on the roller coaster ride of a long Holiday season – enjoying fun times, exchanging presents, feasting on favorite foods, while also fighting effects of the season’s frenzy. As we contemplate New Year resolutions, here are a few things to help us focus on our goal:
1. Express gratitude – One of the concepts for attracting things you want from The Secret is, ” Gratitude is a powerful process of shifting your energy and bringing more of what you want into your life. Be grateful for what you already have and you’ll attract more good things.”
2. Reflect on what brings happiness and fulfillment in your life. It could be getting together with friends, taking up a new hobby, learning a new skill, volunteering for a good cause. Plan on doing more things that bring pleasure and meaning to life.
3. Let curiosity set your goals. Sometimes goal setting can be daunting thinking we need a lofty intent in mind. We want goals that are achievable, help us grow, and feel a sense of accomplishment. Something I read recently really hit home for me from Elizabeth Gilbert, author of Eat, Pray, Love. “Some people (like Elizabeth) are jackhammers. They focus intensely on one thing, diving in deeply and tuning out any other pursuit. But others are like hummingbirds, flitting from flower to flower–letting curiosity lead them from one interest to another–and making the world a better place by “pollinating” various interests with their unique contribution. Not everyone is a jackhammer! We need hummingbirds!”
So whether you’re a jack hammer or hummingbird, embrace new opportunities in the New Year!
“Among the things you can give and still keep are your word, a smile, and a grateful heart.” – Zig Ziglar
I really believe attitude and gratitude make a huge difference in our lives. The best test for a good attitude was when I was diagnosed with cancer almost 14 years ago. It was devastating to hear that dreaded word. I had two choices: feel doomed or fight for my life. Thankfully, I chose to fight and thought: This will not get me. I will beat it! Keeping a positive spirit, doing things that made me smile and laugh, support from family and friends is what helped me through the most difficult year of my life.
It’s one of the main things I’m grateful for today. Gratitude and a happy heart go hand in hand. The more you give thanks, the better you feel. The opposite is often true too. When we grumble and groan about life, we open the door to more hardship. We all have bad days or times when things aren’t going well. It’s the course of life. I find it helpful after ranting to turn it around and recount all of my blessings. I always find the gratitude list is much longer.
There is actually an Expanding the Science and Practice of Gratitude Project at UC Berkeley and Davis to document and promote benefits of practicing gratitude which include:
- Strengthen our immune system and lower blood pressure
- Higher levels of positive emotions
- Acting with generosity and compassion
- Feeling less lonely and isolated
Pam Grout, author of E-Squared and E-Cubed believes our thoughts can create reality. Love her recent blog on gratitude. As I continue to feel grateful, I really do feel happier, and it makes me smile when hearts randomly appear in my morning coffee.